别江南简谱:8种技巧让你迈开第一步

8种技巧让你开始着手去做

“The tragedy of life is not that it ends so soon, but that we wait so long to begin it.”

人生的悲剧不是这么快就结束，而是我们等了很长时间才开始的。

W.M.刘易斯

试图改善你生活所面临的一个大问题就是你有时好像从来没想过要开始。你总是对自己说：实在是没时间。

W. M. Lewis     w.m.刘易斯

One big problem with trying to improve your life simply is that sometimes you never seem to be able to get started. You say to yourself: ”There is never really time”. 

试图改善你生活所面临的一个大问题就是有时你好像从来没想过要开始。你总是对自己说：实在是没时间。

Sometimes that’s true. Sometimes you’re just procrastinating or postponing for some reason. 

有时候这种说法是真实的，而有时候这仅仅是你为了推迟而找的某种理由。

当试图开始时，也会有很多内心的抵触。

There is often quite a bit of inner resistance when trying to get started.

 

当试图开始时，也会有很多内心的抵触。

If you have trouble getting started here are at least a few tips you can try. I hope that you’ll find them helpful.

如果你也为怎么开始而困惑的话，这里有一些建议你不妨试一试。我希望它们能对你有所帮助。

1. Choose something you really want.

1.选择你真正想做的事情

One reason that you may never seem to get started is because your heart is not in it. If you set a goal but it isn’t your goal then it will be hard to achieve or even getting started with it. 

你从来没有想过要开始是因为你的内心根本就没有它。如果你制订了一个跟本不属于你的目标，那么你就很难去实现它甚至开始着手去做。

如果你意识到这是你周围的人（父母，老师，老板或社会大众）制订的一个目标，你很有可能会删除这个目标，然后创建一些你可能会实现的目标。

If you realize that it’s a goal set by people around you – parents, teachers, bosses or society in general – then, when possible, eliminate the goal and set a few goals you would like to achieve. 

如果你意识到这是你周围的人制订的一个目标--父母，老师，老板或者社会大众，然后很有可能你会删除这个目标，制订一些你喜欢的目标去实现。

Or try to find you own motivation and reasons for achieving a goal rather than the ones people around you have set. This could put the goal in different light and suddenly you’ll feel a whole lot motivated to get started.

或者你可以试图去找出实现一个目标你所需要的动力和理由，而不是你周围的人设定的。这种办法会使你的目标置于不同的关线之下，然后突然你就会感受到一股全新的动力来促使你去开始。

2. Research and make a plan. 

2.研究、制订一个计划

Downsides and problems that we imagine before getting started are often just in our heads. They are a bunch of excuses or opinions based on something you heard from someone at one time or another. Do a bit of your own research instead. Read books, do some googling and ask people who have actually been where you want to go. 

我们在开始之前所想象的下降趋势和问题经常会萦绕在我们的头脑中。它们只不过是一些借口或者是基于某件事从某人那里听来的意见而已。做一项自己的调查。通过读书，用谷歌进行搜索，问别人去过的地方从而得出自己想去的地方。

With a bit of research you can often reduce your inner resistance and anxieties and find more positive benefits in getting started.

加上这小小的研究可以减少你的内心抵触和焦虑并且能发现很多积极的因素

After you have done some research and know a bit more about your goal and the road towards it create a plan. Creating a plan, writing down when you have to do this and that can also calm you down and lessen much of the fuzzy anxiety and fear that can hold you back from getting started. With a clearer image of what you can do and how you should go about it a big chunk of your negative feelings will become less powerful.

在你做完这些研究，更多的了解了你的目标之后，就可以制订一个计划了。制订计划，必须做的事情要写下来，这样也能使你的内心平静，减少一些焦虑感和阻止你开始的恐惧。清晰的知道自己能做什么并且怎样着手去做，这样你的负面情绪才不会影响你。

3. Ask yourself: What is the worst that could happen?

3.自问：如果发生了最糟糕的情况是什么？

After you have done some research and made a plan you will probably have lessened your fears and anxieties a bit. If you still feel like you can’t get started ask yourself: what is the worst that can happen? 

在你完成研究，制订计划之后，你会觉得你的恐惧和焦虑会减少了好多。如果你还是感觉不能开始的话，就自问一下：最糟糕的情况是什么？

A lot of the fear we feel before getting started comes from fuzzy and foggy thoughts about what could happen. But if you actually imagine the worst scenario then it’s often not as frightening as you thought. You won’t die or anything. And it won’t ruin the rest of your life. 

在开始之前我们感受到的许多恐惧都是来源于将要发生什么事情的困惑和迷茫。但是如果你把最糟糕的情形想象出来你就不会像所想的那么害怕了。你不会死或者发生其他事情，这也不会毁了你后半辈子的生活。

Imagine the worst scenario and then try to create a plan how you could get on your feet again if that scenario, against all probability, should happen. You’ll probably realize that whatever your fear is you could probably get back on your feet and back to normal life pretty quickly once again.

想象一个最糟糕的情形，然后试着制订一个计划：就是当这种情形不可避免的发生时，你会如何重新站立起来。之后你可能会意识到不管你的恐惧是什么你都能够坚持下去并且再一次快速的回到你的正常生活中去。

4. Make it easy on yourself. 

4.放松自己

You don’t have to overcomplicate things. If you do there is bigger chance that you’ll give up before what you started becomes a habit. 

你不必把事情复杂化。如果你做，就会有更大的机会；反之，在你开始成为习惯之前就得放弃。

Making it easier on yourself will make it easier to get started. 

放松自己才能有更好的开始。

So, for instance, instead of buying a membership at the gym that is located 20 minutes away from your house to improve your aneoarobic capacity invest in Stairmaster. And start working out while watching TV, playing videogames or doing some reading.

因此，要与朋友在离家20分钟远的体育馆进行锻炼，来提升自己的肌肉与胆量。也可以从看电视，玩游戏或者读书来开始。

5. Pump your emotional state.

5.提升你的情感

If you just need a boost in motivation to head down the gym for the first time or try out something new there is a whole bunch of techniques you can use. Some of my favourites are guided mediation cds, changing your physiology to change how you feel and listening to inspirational material. You can find 25 ways to motivate yourself here and another 5 here.                                                                                                     

如果你第一次去健身房仅仅是想增加动力或者是尝试新的事物的话，这里有很多种技术你可以使用。我最喜欢的方法就是引导调解，通过改变你的生理来使你的感觉有所变化还有听一些激励人的材料。你可以在这里发现“25种激励自己的方法”和另外“5种方法”。

6. Find encouragement and help from other people.

6.得到鼓励和帮助

You may for instance find a buddy who also wants to start working out in a gym. So you motivate each other to get going and to continue that habit. 

你也许能找到一个也想在体育馆进行锻炼的人。然后你们就互相鼓励着来锻炼，保持好这个习惯。

I think this can become an excuse though. If you don’t have friend that wants to start working out with you don’t let that stand in your way. 

我认为这也是个借口。如果没有朋友陪你一起锻炼你就不坚持这个习惯了吗？

You can find motivation from others in other places. Start reading workout blogs and get involved in that community. Or start a blog of your own. Or start participating in a forum or two to find the support and help you may need.

你可以在别的地方从其他人那里得到动力。浏览一个博客然后融入到个群体，或者加入一两个论坛进行讨论以便获得支持进而找到你所需要的。

7.行动起来

7. Just do it. 

7.行动起来

If you are sitting around just procrastinating day in and day out just stop over-thinking. Shut off you brain. Just put on your clothes – or sit down at the phone, computer or wherever you need to be – and go and just do it. When our thoughts and feelings and constantly holding us back then I think that you sometimes just need to stop listening to them and take action. 

如果你还是坐在那里只为了日复一日的拖延时间，那么你就什么都不要想。关闭你的大脑。穿上你的衣服要不就坐在电话，电脑或任何你所需要的东西前面，去做、去行动就行了。当我们的思想和感觉阻止我们的时候，我觉得你要做的就是停止去想，行动就行了。

This is easy to say of course. It’s a bit harder to do and to develop into a consistent habit. But it is possible. Thinking has its place but it isn’t action. No matter how much you think you still need to take action. Developing a just do it habit can make taking action easier and will stop you from wasting a lot of time going over different scenarios – that are mostly negative – over and over in your head.

说起来很容易做起来就不是那么回事了。想要持续的坚持一种习惯是比较困难的。但是也是有可能的。想什么不代表就能做什么。不管你想的有多好不去行动也是徒劳的。培养一种做事情的习惯能让你行动起来更容易些，也可以阻止你的大脑去想一些负面的东西--浪费时间去想不同的场景。

Just getting going and doing something even if your thoughts and feelings want to hold you back becomes easier if you have small list of positive benefits in your mind or on a piece of paper. Then you know why you should go even if you don’t feel like it and are having negative and self-defeating thoughts and feelings at the moment. 

如果你能在脑海里例举出一些积极的因素或者干脆把它们写下来，这样你的思维和想法就不会那么反抗而变得容易接受，之后你就去准备着手去做一些事情吧。这就是为什么即使你不喜欢它或者在同一时间有消极和战胜自我的思想时也要去做的原因。

And if you think back to the times in past when you first felt hesitant you may remember that those negative feelings pretty quickly were replaced with more positive ones. And you were happy that you got started. It’s pretty likely that the same thing will happen this time too.

现在回想你第一次犹豫的那些消极的思想已经被更多积极的思想所替代了。并且你会为能够开始而感到高兴。这就相当于同一件事情又再次发生了。

8. Learn about time management.

8.学会管理时间

If your troubles getting started actually just are based in a lack of time have a look at these 10 Tips for Freeing Up More Time For Yourself. Or check out this article on the 7 Habits of Highly Ineffective People. Hopefully you’ll find a few tips that can help you manage your time better and finally get started with that thing you’ve been wanting to do for some time now

如果你不能开始的问题在于没有时间的话，你可以参考一下“10种技巧让你能自由支配时间”；或者看看这篇文章“无效率人们的7种习惯”。真诚的希望你能找到一些有用的技巧来帮助你更好的管理时间，并且最后能够开始着手去做那件你一直期望的事情。