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爱你自己，接纳你自己，原谅你自己

Editor’s Note: This is a contribution by Jennifer Pastiloff

编辑按：此文由Jennifer Pastiloff投稿
翻译：Shayne Yeats

“Love yourself—accept yourself—forgive yourself—and be good to yourself, because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.” ~Leo F. Buscaglia

"爱你自己---接纳你自己---原谅你自己---并且待自己好点，因为假如没有你的话，这个原本多姿多彩的世界将因此而缺失许多多姿多彩的事情。" ~ Leo F. Buscaglia

You mean I am a source of many wonderful things?

这句话的意思是说我是许多多姿多彩的事情的源泉？
 

Yes. Actually you are. Own up to it.

没错，正是如此。
 

Leo has it right.

Leo讲得没错。
 

1. Love yourself.

1.爱你自己

Despite all the things that you think may be terribly wrong with you, love yourself.Love yourself.Tattoo it on your brain.

尽管你的生活看上去也许很糟糕，但你要爱你自己。你要把“爱你自己”这句话牢记在心。

I can think of so many reasons why you should love yourself, but here’s just one: It is incredibly dull and uninspiring to be around people who do not love themselves.

为什么要爱你自己呢?有许许多多的原因，其中的一个就是：和那些不爱自己的人相处是件无聊而又沮丧的事，所以要爱你自己。

I sent many years being anorexic and feeling like I was a monster. I’m sure I was not much fun to be around and I also know that I didn’t book any of the acting jobs I was trying to land. It is very challenging to hire someone or love someone who fights you by holding up a mirror of hatred toward themselves.

我过去是一个厌食症患者，在这些年里我一直都觉得自己是一个怪物。我当时很确信我自己不是个有趣的人，而且我也没有签约任何一个我想要的代理工作。要雇用或爱那些高举仇恨之镜的人是一个非常艰巨的挑战。

Here’s my challenge for you today: Take a picture of your face and remember that in 10 years time you will be amazed at how gorgeous you were. Be amazed now.

这就是我今天布置给你的挑战任务：给自己拍张脸部特写照片，并在将来的十年里牢记这张面容，你会意识到自己是多么地光彩夺目。现在就开始吧。

Identify something about you that you may not adore and find a way to at least laugh at it or like it, even a little bit.

找到自己平庸的地方，然后对之冷嘲热讽一番或是欣然接受。

I have profound hearing loss; in fact, I am almost deaf and wear hearing aids. I have ringing in my ears 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Does it drive me mad most days? Yes. However, it is here to stay, and I have learned that I can make light of it or sit home and feel sorry for myself because I am missing out on what feels like everything.

我听觉不好，事实上，我几乎就是个聋子，我得靠助听器才能听到别人讲的话。我无时无刻不带着助听器。这样子的生活是否让我抓狂呢？没错，然而，这既然已是事实，那为什么我还要在家里为自己的这点缺陷而倍感难过呢？我大可以去做其它事让自己的生活变得丰富多彩。

Either way the choice is mine to make. I have also learned that because of my hearing loss, my other senses are highly attuned. I am more compassionate because of it. I am a healer.

选择权在我手里。我还发现因为我听觉上的缺陷，我的其它感官协调性变得更好。这是这个原因，我更富有同情心，我是一个心灵医师。

I have turned something I don’t necessarily “love” having into another piece in the puzzle of me, and part of why I love that puzzle.

我已经将那些我几乎不爱的东西转变成为我爱的东西。

Instead of thinking “I am an incomplete human being because I can’t hear perfectly,” I think “I am an incredible human being with a profound sense of touch and understanding and a huge capacity for love. I am also awesome at reading lips. So there.”

我抛弃了“我是一个不健全的人类，因为我有听力障碍，”这样的想法，取而代之是“我是一个独一无二的人，我的触觉很敏锐，理解力也非常好，我还有一个博爱之心，并且还擅长于读唇语。”

What can you love about yourself today that you may have struggled with before?

过去你常常为之苦恼的事，如今有没有变成你所热爱的事呢？

Can you find a way to cultivate the opposite? According to Pantajali’s Yoga Sutra 2.33, “When the mind is disturbed by improper thoughts constant pondering over the opposites is the remedy.”

你能发现一种培养发展积极面的方法吗？Pantajal的瑜伽经第2.33节说，“当你被错误的想法干扰之时，可以解救你的方法就是去思考其相反面。”

2. Forgive yourself.

2.原谅你自己。

I lead a meditation in my workshops on forgiveness, and every time, without fail, people start crying. Almost everyone in the room will have at least shed a tear. This leads me to believe that we are all indeed connected, a union—which is what the word Yoga means.

我在我的讲习班中新增了冥想这样环节，而且每次人们总会情不自禁地开始痛哭流涕。几乎屋内的所有人都流泪了。这让我相信我们每个人都是深深地联系在一起的，团聚---这也正是瑜伽这个词的意思。

The human experience is so similar, and yes, I know the details are vastly different, and that the devil lies in the details, but, we still share the same weight on our shoulders. That weight would be diminished if we chose to forgive instead of harboring guilt or anger.

每个人的经历都是如次得相似，而各中细节却有非常大的不同，我知道魔鬼其实就存在于细小的差别中，但是我们依旧同享一片蓝天，共同生活在同一个屋檐下。假如我们摒弃罪恶与怒气，并以宽容之心去生活，那么这种差别就会被缩小。

People cry most in my workshops when we do the meditation on forgiving yourself. Most likely it’s because we are hardest on ourselves.

在讲习班上大部分人都会在做原谅你自己的冥想时泣不成声。大多是由于我们待自己太苛刻的缘故。

What can you forgive yourself for today?

今天，你可以在哪些方面原谅你自己？

I forgive myself for saying “I hate you” to my father right before he died when I was eight years old. I carried it around for many years and let it color my life a dark airless color.

我原谅了我自己在八岁时在我父亲还剩最后一口气时对他说“我恨你”。这件事有好多年一直都给我留下阴暗的回忆。

I forgive myself for not being perfect.

我原谅我自己并不是一个完美的人。

This shift occurred was when I was finally able to let go of my eating disorder. We often hold ourselves to impossible standards and end up feeling bad.

这种转变是在我最终摆脱饮食失调后才发生的。我们常常给自己套上了难以企及的高标准，最终又以糟糕的情绪结束。

Ask yourself honestly, “What can I forgive myself for?”

坦然地反省下，“在哪些方面我可以原谅我自己？”

Sometimes it takes simply saying it aloud or writing it down to realize that you actually no longer need to bear the brunt of it.

有时只需大声地将这些心声说出来或写下来，你就可以如释重负了。

3. Be good to yourself. Do things that you inspire you daily.

3.待自己好点。做那些能让你每天精神抖擞的事。

Make a list. Grab your iPad or your notepad or even your hand and draw up a list of things you can do today to make you feel good.

列出一份清单。拿起你的iPad 或拿出一张纸，将你今天能够做的事列出来，这样会让你感觉很棒。

Keep adding to the list. Forgive yourself if you skip a couple and love yourself no matter how long or short the list is and how much you accomplish on it.

不要停止往清单上增加待办事项。原谅你自己遗漏了某些事情，不论这份清单是长是短，也不论你花了多久才做完这些待办事项，你都有爱你自己。

You will not be graded or tested on this list.

这份清单不是一份考卷，它不是用来测试你，也不是用来给你打个分数。

My list involves a lot of laughing. My “Feel Good” list also has: my yoga practice, teaching yoga classes, writing, a long leisurely dinner with friends, having a great glass of wine, staying up all night reading a book I cannot put down, being with kids who have special needs and teaching them yoga, poetry, Modern Family, skyping with my nephews, and the list goes on.

我的这份清单包含了许多欢乐的东西。我的这份“让自己感觉好起来”的清单就包括：我的瑜伽训练，教授瑜伽课程，写作，和朋友共度悠闲的晚餐，有一大杯葡萄酒，通宵读一本让我难以放下手的好书，和有特殊需求的孩子待在一起并教他们瑜伽，诗歌，现代家庭，和侄子在网上聊天，而且这份清单中的事项还在不停地增多。

Do something every single day that makes you feel good,whether it is changing your thought patterns or taking a bath while reading a magazine in the tub.

每天去做那些能够让你感觉很棒的事，不论它会挑战你的思维模式，还是在浴盆里一边泡浴一边读杂志，这些事你都可以去尝试尝试。

Maybe it’s getting an extra hour of sleep or staying up late and watching Pretty Woman for the 50th time.

或许第50次观看《风月俏佳人》会让你多腾出一个小时的时间，或许你也会因此要熬会夜。

Pleasure and joy are highly underrated and beating ourselves, up highly overrated. Flip it! Cultivate the opposite.

欢乐往往被我们低估了，而那些困扰我们的却被高估了。倒转过来，培养积极面。

One of my main rules as a yoga teacher is that if you fall, you must laugh and take down your neighbor, which cultivates a sense of humor, and hopefully a little joy. You need at least a little joy daily. Sprinkle it on your cereal, slip it in your downward facing dog, add it to your pinot noir.

作为一个瑜伽老师，我的一天准则就是，当你在练习过程中摔倒了，你就应该想旁边的人搞怪般地笑笑，这样即是培养幽默感也会给你增添一份欢乐。至少，你应该欢快地度过一天。

Accept that you are indeed the source of many wonderful things. If you need help remembering what they are from time to time, keep making your feel good lists. Keep coming back to the love that is inherently yours. It is your birthright. And so it is.

接受你是许多多姿多彩的事情的源泉这个事实。如果你需要一些帮助才能记住这些事情的话，你可以去列出那些让你感觉很棒的事项的清单。让爱常伴你左右，而且这也是你与生俱来的特权，从本质上来讲，爱是属于你的。

Whatever it takes. Just do it.

不论代价有多大，放手去做吧！

A student told me after she returned from my July Ojai retreat that she wanted to live her life every day as if she was still on the retreat. And why shouldn’t she? What a revelation! What a revolution of the mind.

我的一位学生在参加了我在七月份在奥哈伊举办的静修课程后，给我反馈说虽然她的静修课程已经结束了，但她仍在静修的人生旅途上前进。她为什么不去那样做呢？这是一个多么大的改变啊！心灵上的巨大改变。

Be good to yourself. You will train other people to do the same.

待自己好点。你就给别人也树立了个好榜样。

And guess what? If they aren’t good to you, you will still have your old standby who is always good to you: YOU. Pretty much what matters most at the end of the day. You being good to you. The rest will follow.

猜猜看，假如你待自己不太好的话，会发生什么？你依旧还有一个曾今会善待自己的的你，他随时待命等着你去挖掘。爱你自己是非常重要的，做到了，你的生活就可以步入正轨。

Remember the 90’s En Vogue song, with the lyrics “Free your mind, the rest will follow”?

记得90年代的那首《En Vogue 》唱到“解放你的思想，剩下的一切就会追随你的心”。

It will. So get up and dance.