时时彩怎么打负盈利:5堂没有用的个人发展课程。你会照做吗？

个人发展对你来说像是一件骗人的事情吗？你曾经怀疑过为什么所有这些建议永远都没有用吗？

Just like me, you are probably subscribed to several personal development ezines, you faithfully browse new personal development articles on blogs and in magazines, you read books and maybe even took a course or two. However, in spite of the time that you spent on all that reading your life hasn’t changed a bit.

像我一样，也许你也订阅了几本关于个人发展的电子杂志，你忠实的在博客和杂志上浏览新的关于个人发展的文章，你阅读关于个人发展的书籍，甚至也许已经上了一两门课程。然而，尽管你在那些阅读上面花费了时间，你的生活却并没有什么改变。

You know that you are supposed to have a passion in life. You need to be perfectly focused on your tasks and have no problem with effective time management. And of course if something is not going well in your life you just have to think happy thoughts and everything will miraculously work out.

你知道你的生活中应当有激情。你需要完全专注于你的工作并且能够完全驾驭对有效时间的管理。当然，假如你的生活中有些不如意的地方，你只需要想一些美好的回忆，那么事情就会奇迹般地得到解决。

Unfortunately, it doesn’t happen that way in life. Maybe some gurus can actually make use of this advice but ordinary people like you and me can’t benefit from it to save our lives.

不幸的是，生活中并不是这样的。也许一些专家真的可以利用这些意见，但是像拟合我这样的普通人并不能从中得到好处来改变我们的生活。

If you are still wondering why your life is not improving after all your personal development education then take a look at this popular tips. They might be sabotaging your life balance and your happiness.

假如你还在疑惑为什么你的生活在你接受个人发展课程的教育后仍然没有提高，那么就看看这些受大众欢迎的提示吧。它们也许正在妨碍你生活的平衡和你的幸福。

1. Time management

1、时间管理

We all want to have more time in our days to get everything done. Some people go as far as hiring personal assistants to organize their schedules and fit as much stuff in their days as possible.

我们都想要更多的时间把我们的事情做完。一些人甚至雇佣个人助理来组织他们的时间，并且尽可能多的充实他们的日常生活。

Of course, you can prioritize your tasks, label them, organize them, shift and shuffle them to create a perfect schedule. But unless you are a machine independent of the rest of the world (you have no family, no friends and no personal desires that depend on the highly scientific nature of “mood”) none of this will work.

当然，你可以按顺序安排你的任务，把它们贴标签，组织它们，转移并且整理它们来形成一个完美的日程表。但是除非你是个机器，独立于整个世界之外（你没有家庭，没有朋友，没有依赖于高度科学性的“情绪”的个人欲望，那么所有的这些都没有用。

The main problem with time management is that it focuses on fitting more stuff into your days without ever asking a question why you need that stuff. Time management doesn’t consider circumstances (maybe your child got sick or your friend just got two free tickets to a Monday night football game) that are an essential part of balanced living.

时间管理的主要问题是，它专注于把更多的东西塞进你的日常生活中，而从来不问一下你为什么需要这些东西。时间管理从不考虑那些组成平衡生活的基本部分——实际情况（也许你的孩子生病了，或者你的朋友刚刚得到了两张免费得星期一橄榄球赛的门票）。

Frankly speaking, we have very slim chances of managing our time because we have very little control over it. The best thing we can do is use our time effectively and transform our lifestyle by focusing on our priorities and decluttering our commitments.

坦白地说，我们很少有机会去管理时间，因为我们很少能够控制它。我们能够做到的就是有效地利用时间，把注意力集中在我们的首要目标上，努力兑现我们的承诺，从而转变我们的生活方式。

2. Positive thinking

2、正面思考

I am probably about to get slammed here, but positive thinking doesn’t work (at least in the way most people use it.) If you think that your life will transform overnight just because you think happy thoughts every day then you are about to be very disappointed.

我可能这么说要在这儿被打了，但是正面思考没有用（至少是在人们用的那种方式）。假如你认为你的生活会因为你每天都回想美好的回忆而一夜改变，那么你可能会非常失望。

Too much optimism actually

过多的乐观实际上

leads to procrastination (because these optimists think that they have ple-e-e-enty of time to finish everything),

会导致事情的拖延（因为这些过多的乐观会使他们认为他们有足够的时间来完成所有的事情），

keeps you from achieving your goals (because thinking is not doing and unless you set realistic goals to complement your optimistic dreams then you will never move anywhere),

阻碍你实现你的目标（因为思考并不是行动，除非你设立了现实的目标来完成你乐观的梦想，那么你永远只会止步不前），

undermines your success (because unless you plan the steps to make your success happen the universe won’t reward you for all your positive thoughts);

渐渐破坏你的成功（除非你计划实现成功的步骤，整个宇宙不会因为你的正面想法而奖励你）；

makes you misjudge real life situations and challenges (optimistic people tend to think that positive things happen more often in their lives than in the lives of others. This frame of mind makes them misjudge people around them and put their trust into the wrong people as well as overestimate the potential of their business ideas without ever doing a thorough research.)

使你错误的判断现实生活中的情况和挑战（乐观的人易于认为，积极的东西在他们生活中出现的次数多于其他人。这样的想法使他们无法正确判别自己身边的人而信任错误的人，同时会是他们在没有做深入研究的情况下，过高的评价他们自己事业上的潜力。

Positive thinking is not so good after all, huh? In a balanced life there is place for negative and positive events, they actually complement each other and make you appreciate life more.

正面思考其实并不是那么好，是吗？在平衡的生活中，应当消极的和积极的活动发生，事实上它们是互补的，并且使你更加感激生活。

3. Visualization

3、形象化

Another staple of a personal development menu. How many times did you read about visualizing your future or your best qualities? Maybe you even tried creating a vision board. But it doesn’t work!

另一个“个人发展菜单”上的“主食”。你有多少次读过关于形象化你的未来和你最好的品质？也许你甚至尝试了制作一个愿景板。但是那没有用！

In fact, this type of thinking actually sets you up for failure.

事实上，这种思考的方式会导致你的失败。

Several recent studies by NY psychologists Heather Barry Kappes and Gabriele Oettingen proved that when we imagine our idealized future our brains indulge in the virtual images as if they are real. Whether our visions are reachable or unrealistic doesn’t matter because the mind is so focused on enjoying the fantasy that it doesn’t want to concentrate on the steps that it takes to make it come true.

纽约心理学家Heather Barr Kappes和Gabriele Oettingen做个几个近期研究证明，当我们幻想我们理想的未来时，我们的大脑沉湎于那些犹如真实的虚像。无论我们的想象是可达成的或不真实的都没关系，因为大脑专注于享受那样的幻想，它不想把注意力集中在那些可以使梦想变为现实的步骤上。

Yes, visualization makes you feel good and brings your mood up but it will never help you move forward in life. The same psychologists discovered that people who imagined an uncertain and challenging future were much more energized and likely to succeed than the ones who idealized their future.

是的，形象化可以使你感觉良好，并且使你心情变得愉悦，但是它并不会使你在生活中进步。同一个心理学家发现，一个幻想不确定的、具有挑战性的未来的人更能被激发，也比那些理想化自己未来的人更容易成功。

You can visualize as much as you want but unless you consider all the hurdles on the way, ways to overcome them and practical steps to get your vision from your mind into the real world you won’t make a single step forward.

你可以尽可能的去幻想，但是除非你把成功路上的所有障碍、克服障碍的方法和实际行动使你的幻想从脑海中变为现实，那么你一步也不会前进。

4. Procrastination

4、拖延

How many articles did you read about beating procrastination? And you are probably even procrastinating putting the tips from those articles into use. Here is how it usually goes: make sure that you really want to do it, clear out the distractions, just start it etc. Unfortunately, unless you live in a utopian world, you don’t want to do all tasks. Some of those tasks are boring and unpleasant, but you still have to get them done. So no matter how much you try to build up your desire to complete those tasks you still can’t master your will power to get started.

你读过几篇关于打败拖延的文章？并且你也可能甚至在拖延把那些文章中的提示运用到生活中。这就是通常的说法：确定你真的想要做它，清除干扰，并且开始做它，等等。不幸的是，除非你生活在一个理想化的世界中，你并不想完成所有的任务。一些任务是无聊和讨厌的，但是你仍然要完成。所以无论你如何试着去建立你想要完成那些任务的欲望，你还是不能征服你的毅力去开始它们。

Don’t get me wrong, beating procrastination is vitally important (according to a recent study published in Psychology Today 20% of all people are chronic procrastinators, and 80% are occasional ones) but different tasks require different approaches. There is no one-fit-all scheme that will make every task easy and enjoyable.

不要误解我，打败拖延是极其重要的（根据一个近期在Psychology Today上发表的研究表明，20%的人是习惯性的拖延者，80%的人是偶然性的）但是不同的任务要求不同的方法。并没有一个万能的方法可以让每件任务都变得简单、快乐。

It’s important to focus on tasks that are important to you personally (they satisfy your life priorities) and work around the ones that are less important. Sometimes you just have to be creative about how to make a task interesting or challenging enough to keep you focused and willing to finish it. Sometimes you have to be creative about ditching the task before it saps all the energy out of you.

把注意力集中在那些对你个人来说重要的任务上是很重要的（它们能够满足你的人生目标），并且绕开那些不是很重要的任务。有些时候你就是要创新，在怎样让一个任务变得有趣或者具有足够的挑战性使你精力集中并且愿意完成它上创新。有些时候，你要在怎样在一个任务把你所有的活力都抽走之前扔掉它上创新。

5. Focus

5、注意力集中

Do you have a single passion that you are focused on in life? Do you have a single interest or goal that your entire life is devoted to? Multi-tasking, multi-passionism has gotten a bad rep lately. Everyone wants to focus on one big thing in life. However, is it the way we are meant to live?

在生活中，你有一个让你注意力集中的热情吗？你有一个使你全身心投入的兴趣或目标吗？具同时处理多种能力的任务、具有过多的爱好都是不好的。每个人都想在生活中把注意力集中于一件事情上。然而，这是我们应当具有的生活吗？

The most creative and innovative ideas were born from the mix of different passions and interests.

最具创意的想法都是从不同的爱好和兴趣中产生的。

Steve Jobs’ creative vision was shaped (from his words) while backpacking across India. I don’t think he was very “focused” on the design of his empire when he was enjoying his time with psychedelic drugs.

乔布斯的创新视野（用他的话来说）是在徒步旅行印度时形成的。我不认为当他在享受引起幻觉的那些药物时他是非常“专心致志的”设计他的王国的。

Darren Rowse has shaped his passions for photography and blogging into two separate and very successful business models.

Darren Rowse 形成了热爱摄影和写博客成两个独立的和非常成功的商业模式。

Another Internet success story Johny B. Truant summarized the idea of focusing on one thing in life this way: “Carving out one aspect of yourself and saying “This is who I am” is dumb.” Who can argue with that?

另一个网络上成功的故事，Johny B. Truant 把在生活中专心致志的做一件事的想法进行了这样的总结：“拿出你自己的一个方面并且说‘这就是我’是愚蠢的。”谁可以和这话争论呢？

The next time you hear that you need to focus on one BIG thing in life just ignore the statement. Instead focus on different passions, do what you like because you like it (and not because it HAS to be a primary source of income for you), change your focus during the day and start as many projects as you think you are comfortable with. This is what a true balanced life is all about.

下次当你听到说要把注意力集中在人生中的一件大事上，忽视这样的言论。取而代之的是，把注意力集中在不同的热情上，做你喜欢的事（不要因为它必须是你的收入来源），在白天改变你的注意力，开始你认为使你感到舒适的任务。这才是一个平衡的生活。

So, what personal development advice does work?

那么，什么样的个人发展建议是有用的呢？

I am glad you asked. If you are tired sifting through all the feel-good nonsense and you are ready to make lasting changes to your life then I have created a guide just for you.

我很高兴你问了。如果你认为查看那些“感觉良好”的废话使你疲惫，你已经准备好去持久改变你的生活，那么我为你创立了一份指南。

Click here to learn about the Reclaim Your Life home-study course right now. It is the most intense and only guaranteed-to-work ecourse that will help you do just one thing – improve your life. You can download it for 3 days only under this special offer. After that it’s gone!

现在就点击这里来学习《改造你的人生自学教程》。是教会你提升你的生活的最大程度、唯一保证有用的网络教程。你可以在这仅有的特别优惠3天中下载。3天之后就没有了！

In 15 days (this is the length of the ecourse) you will declutter your lifestyle, bring more balance into your life, learn practical ways to beat procrastination, create a “correct” positive mindset and learn to battle destructive thinking. The course will help you stop overextending yourself and start living your best life using practical and proven methods that make sense.

15天之内（这是网络教程的时长）你将会改变你的生活方式，为你的生活带来更多的平衡，学到更多的打败拖延的有效方法，创立一个“正确的”正面心态，学习与消极想法做斗争。这些课程会帮助你停止承担过多的工作，并且使你采取现实的、经过检验的方法来重新开始你的生活。

If you are ready to take your personal development to the next level in a way that is logical, straightforward and guaranteed to work then the Reclaim Your Life course is definitely for you.

如果你已经准备好将你的个人发展以一个合理的方式发展到新的层次，采取直接并有效的方法，那么，《改变你的人生自学教程》就是为你而开设的。