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创建一本人生指南

by Celes 

作者：Celes

One of the key tools I found critical in my pursuit of personal growth and living a purposeful life is creating my own life handbook. What do I mean by a life handbook?

在追求我个人成长和有意义的生活的过程中，我发现在这么多的重要工具中，起决定性的一个是，创建自己的人生指南。我说的人生指南是什么呢？

A life handbook, to put it simply, is your manual that contains anything and everything important in living your life, from your life purpose, adages, life learnings, long-term goals, short-term goals, strategies, plans, right down to your daily tasks. Just like you need a driving manual to learn driving, your life handbook is your manual to progress in life. Just as the Bible is the guidebook that reflects the doctrine and creed of Christianity, your life handbook is your map towards living your best possible life.

人生指南，简单地说，就是你人生中所有重要的事的绘本，从你的人生目的，格言，人生阅历，长期目标，短期目标，处世之道，人生规划，还可以细化到你的日常工作。就像你需要一本驾驶指南来学开车，你的人生指南将在生活指引你前进和发展。正如《圣经》是一本体现基督教的教义和信条的指导手册，你的人生指南将展现出你会过上的最好生活的图景。

The idea of having a life handbook came to me over a year ago. In 2006, I realized my life passion to help people grow before I started my corporate job. At that point, I made the decision to enter the corporate world anyway for growth purposes, but promised myself to keep in mind my passion and pursue it full-time one day.

创建一本人生指南这个想法是一年前才有的。2006年，在我创业的时候，我意识到内心那股帮助人们的人生激情在高涨。在那时，考虑到未来的成长，我决定无论如何我都要进入商业世界。于是，我承诺自己要时刻铭记这份激情，并且，终有一天我要奉献我全部的时间去实现它。

Fast forward to a year later in 2007, and what did I have? Absolutely no progress on my passion whatsoever! And it wasn’t because I had lost interest in it. It was simply because I was so busy juggling my busy work schedule and my daily life that I had no mental energy left to think about my passion at the end of the day. This was the same for most of my Quadrant 2 goals.

转眼到了2007下半年，我有什么呢？没有任何一点进展！这并不是因为我对它不感兴趣了。那是因为当时我要忙碌于我的工作和生活，于是在一天结束时，我没有剩余精力来考虑我酷爱的事情。就像我们常常会忙碌在紧急而不重要的事情当中。

Besides that, I also noticed there were a lot of important things I was learning in life and they were either lost over time or stashed away in my latent memory. I wasn’t proactively leveraging on what I had learned, not because I didn’t want to, but because there were just too many things to keep up with just the memory. While I made an effort to pen things down in notebooks and documents, these were often strewn everywhere and it was a chore to get them in place.

除了这一点，我还留意到我能从生活中学到很多重要的事，而它们要么随着时间流逝消失了，要么就躲在潜意识记忆里不现身。我没有把我学到的通过杠杆效应将它的作用扩大，不是因为我不想，而是我脑子里实在装了太多东西。当我努力用笔把这些事记录在笔记本和文档里时，它们又被随处丢弃，要把它们编排有序真是一件苦差事。

When I troubleshooted the situation, I realized it was because I lacked a central system to support my life. If I were to create a one single document which lay the blueprint on how I could get the best out of life; If I were to refer to this document as my sole reference every day; it would help me become much more focused. A lot of unnecessary rework would be cut away. This would be the only place where I document everything noteworthy and it would serve as the guide for my everyday thinking, decisions, actions to be the best I can be. And hence, my life handbook was born.

当我要理清当前形势的时候，我意识到所有这些都源于我的生活中缺了主心骨。如果我要创建一张活出自己最佳生活状态的未来蓝图；如果我要把这份文本作为我生活的专有参照；它会让我变得更加专注。大量不需要的返工都可以省去。我需要一个可以记录值得注意的事情的介质。同时，它也将成为我日常思考，做出决定和采取行动的指南。就这样，我有了我的人生指南。

Benefits Of Having Your Life Handbook

人生指南带来的好处

A life handbook is incredibly powerful in many ways. First and foremost, having this document is your key enabler to becoming a true leader of your life. It is where you get reminded of your life purpose/vision, your adages and all your goals so you can continuously steer in the right direction. Having this level of clarity gives you instant focus, helps you take command of your life and ignore everything else that do not matter. Daily to-do lists, action plans for my goals, etc were great for a start, but they only allow you to live life to the fullest within those compartments. To truly live life to the fullest, you need to see your life as an entity by itself.

人生指南在很多方面可以带给我们惊人而且强大的力量。首先，拥有指南，你就成了生活的真正领导者。指南将提醒你，你的人生目的和愿景，你的人生格言以及你所有的目标，这样你就总能往正确的方向走。对未来有清晰明确的想法，使你马上集中精力，助你掌控自己的生活，同时排除无关紧要的事务。做好日程表和行动规划等对于刚开始的时候是很好的，但它们只能允许你在这些规划好的条条框框内过的尽情。要真正过上极致的生活，你需要认识到你的生活它是实实在在的一个整体。

Secondly, it grants you increased mental resources. Think of your brain as a mental hard drive that has only 10meg of memory. Because this 10meg of mental space is so limited and precious, you want to use it wholly for the task you are working on at any point in time (and become more productive in the process), rather than using it to store information you don’t need currently. A life handbook is like an external, unlimited hard drive where you dump every thing that you can ever possibly need so you can refer it to the future vs storing it in your mind.

其次，充实精神世界。想象你的大脑是一个只有10M记忆容量的脑力硬盘。因为这10M脑力空间如此有限和珍贵，你想在任何时刻都要充分使用它来解决你正面临的任务（在处理过程中还想更有效果），而不是储存一些你目前不需要的信息。人生指南手册就像一个外在的有无限容量的硬盘，你可以存放任何你需要的信息，因此，相对于仅仅是把信息存在大脑中，你在将来可以从指南中得到一些参照。

Thirdly, it makes you highly organized. There are a lot of different things we have to juggle with everyday – from pursuing our goals, tackling obstacles that surface, managing across different long-term and short-term priorities, to doing our day-to-day tasks. All these makes it very easy to get into disarray. In a bid to become more organized, you may start using post-it notes, create to-do lists, buy personal organizers, etc. However, over time, just trying to keep up with these lists becomes a task in itself to upkeep, which defeats the whole purpose of using them to begin with! A life handbook, on the other hand, keeps you highly organized as it serves as the singular one central medium where you store the information you need.

第三，高度组织化。每天我们都要面对很多不同的事情，从追逐自己的目标，克服随时出现的阻碍，对长期目标和短期目标进行管理和排序，到我们每天要做的日常事务。所有这些都很容易让我们的生活陷入一团糟的境地。为了做到更有条理性，你要开始使用便利贴，创建任务清单，购买个人备忘记事本等。然而，仅仅为了遵循这些说明并把它当成了一个任务，那就和最初决定为什么使用它们的意图背道而驰了。反过来说，人生指南是高度组织化的，因为它是你储存自己需要的信息的单一介质。

Fourthly, it makes you much more effective. Have you ever found yourself looping in certain behaviors which prevent you from moving forward? Do you ever feel you seem to be stuck in situations even though you have encountered similar ones before? In your life handbook, you document learnings you gained from your experiences, so that you can always reference back to make better decisions in the future. This allows you to move forward in becoming the best person you can be rather than repeat your footsteps from the past.

第四，更有效。你有没有发现自己有时会纠结在某个行为模式中，而使自己总在原地踏步？你有没有感觉到你似乎陷入了困境，即使你之前遇到过类似的情形？你的人生指南手册记录了你从生活中获得的经验教训，因此，在将来需要做决定时，你可以随时参照和引用，从而让自己做出更好的决定。这将助你朝着自己最想成为的人的方向前进，而不是一直重复过去的步子。

What To Use For Your Life Handbook

人生指南使用说明

There is no hard and fast rule on how a life handbook should be; it is up to your preference. It can be in the form of a book, a personal organizer, a soft copy, an online document, etc. I find a digital life handbook (using Excel, Word, etc) much more effective since 1) You can easily edit the information 2) It has in-built functions to organize information readily 3) It is transferable across different mediums. My personal recommendation will be a word document or spread sheet. If you’d like a hard copy, it’s great too. Go shopping for a nice book that resonates with you to get started.  

人生指南手册应该怎么样，这个没有硬性规定；它取决于你的喜好。它可以是任何一种形式，书，个人备忘记事本，电子档，在线文档等等都可以。我找到了一种更有效的人生指南记录形式，那就是数字化（使用Excel电子表格，Word文档），因为1）你容易编辑信息，2）它们内置的功能便于组织信息，3）它可以保存在不同存储介质中。我个人的建议是，使用word文档和电子数据表。如果你喜欢书面化的，那也不错。去店里买一个本子，然后马上做好记录。

Some of my clients use Excel/Powerpoint to create their handbook. Some of my clients prefer hard copy, buying folders/blank notebooks, then customizing/decorating them to be their handbooks.  It’s exciting to see how each of them put together their handbook – no matter how many times I work with a client to create his/her life handbook, everyone’s life handbook always comes out differently, because it’s a representation of the person’s individuality and identity.

我的一些客户会使用Excel电子表格和Powerpoint幻灯片来创建他们的指南书。另外有一些客户，他们偏爱书面化的方式，他们会购买文件夹和笔记本，然后按照自己的习惯设计这些本子，把它们做成自己的人生指南书。无论多少次我指导客户创造他/她的指南手册，当我看到他们把指南手册都放在一起的时候，那个时刻是令人激动的。每个人的指南书都是与众不同的，因为它体现了一个人的个性和身份。

Key Sections of Your Book

When creating your life handbook, bear in mind that this is just like your life’s blueprint. It should contain anything and everything that is important to live your best life. Below is a good starting point on what you should put:

指南书的关键部分。

当你在创建你的人生指南书时，请记住，这个就是你的人生蓝图。它应该包含你生命中所有重要的事情。当你考虑要写些什么的时候，下面这些建议可以帮你上手。

1.Life purpose/vision/mission

1.人生目的/愿景/使命

2.Values (If you have Personal Excellence Book Volume 1, be sure to read the exclusive article Discover Your Values. Also, check out Day 9 of 30DLBL on discovering your values.)

2.价值观（如果你有追求卓越1（Personal Excellence Book Volume 1），一定要读这篇主题文章，发现你的价值（Discover Your Values）。与此同时，参照30DLBL中第9日，发现你的价值。）（注：30DLBL为Live A Better Life in 30 Days ）

3.Strengths and improvement areas

3.优势和要改善的能力

4.Life adages

4.人生格言

5.Vision board (Visual representation of what you want in life. Check out Day 5 of 30DLBL on creating your vision board)

5.愿景板（把你生活想要的进行视觉化。可参照30DLBL中第5日，创建你的愿景板一章。）

6.Life goals: Long-term (5, 3, 1 year) and short-term (monthly) goals

6.人生目标：长期目标（5年，3年，1年）和短期目标（月目标）

7.Plans to achieve your goals

7.实现目标的计划

While the above may seem a bit hefty and overwhelming, there is no need for you to finish writing everything in one sitting; neither is it logical to expect that. You will find that simply writing out this document requires a high degree of self awareness and clarity on your life. Take as much time as you need to introspect upon the areas above. The handbook will always remain as a work-in-progress document. There will never be a point when it is ‘finished’, since you are constantly updating it as you live through life, get new learnings, achieve your goals and aim for higher grounds. Make it a daily habit to update your handbook every day, even if it is just 5 minutes each time.

虽然以上几点看起来繁杂，但这并不需要你一坐下就要马上把所有事都写出来，况且这么想也是不合逻辑的。你会发现，要写出这样一份指南书需要高度的自我意识和对生活要有远见性。对以上方面请花尽可能多的时间来思考和反省。这是一本需要不断完善的手册。即使完成了，那也只是其中的一个点，而不是终点，因为你要时刻更新这本指南手册，因为在生活中，你将学到新的经验和教训，实现你的目标并迈向更高的目标。培养每天更新指南手册的习惯，即使它每次只花5分钟。

I first started working on my life handbook in early 2008, in an excel sheet. At that time, I didn’t consciously think of this or term it as a life handbook. I just saw it as a document to put my life learnings in, so I could refer regularly for insights and guidance. Before I knew it, I was adding on to it day after day, adding to it, editing it, structuring it, restructuring it, until it became a whole manual of its own. When I wasn’t busy working, I would be laying out its bricks, chipping in little bits every day and working on it for longer periods over the weekends. It was about a couple of months before I finally felt the basic foundation of the document was in place.

在2008年上半年，我第一次用Excel电子表格创建我的人生指南手册。那时，我并没有把它当作是人生指南。我仅仅是把我人生经历和教训记录在册而已，这样我可以时常做个借鉴。在我知道它的真正作用前，我只是每天添加，添加，编辑，排版，调整，直到它从最初的几页变成现在的一本手册。当我不太忙的时候，我就每天花点时间在本子里写点什么，在周末我就花更长的时间写更多的东西。两三个月后，这个手册才有点雏形。

1 year later today, my handbook has become a massive workbook with nearly 20 sheets chocked full of wisdom, learnings and information paramount to me and my life. Below is a partial outline of my handbook:

一年后的今天，我有了一本厚厚的将近20页的指南书，书里写满了对我和对我的生活都至关重要的智慧、经验和信息。以下是我指南书的部分展示：

1.My overall life purpose/vision

1.我的人生目的和愿景

2.My life-long goals 

2.我的终生目标

?5/3/1 year goals

5年目标，3年目标，1年目标

?My 1 year goals, break down into months

我把1年目标分解成月目标

3.My vision board

3.我的愿景板

4.My values

4.我的价值观

5.My overall life adages based on what I have learned in life

5.我从生活中学到的人生格言

6.My strengths; My improvement areas and blind spots

6.我的优势，我需要提升的方面，和盲点

7.Things that motivate me in life

7.生活中可以激励我的事情

8.My strategies, plans and tracking for my goals

8.我的处世之道，人生规划和目标

9.Daily to-do list (Updated on ongoing basis)

9.日程表(时刻保持更新)

10.Inspirational quotes

10.触发的灵感

11.Highlights of each year

11.每一年的亮点

12.Reflections I get every year

12.每年我得到的感想

13.Miscellaneous information which I access frequently: My finances, my credit card info, grocery lists, etc

13.每天我要接触的各类信息：我的财务，我的信用卡使用情况，需要购买杂货的清单等。

Your handbook should be organized in a manner that is meaningful to you and effective for your perusal. It should be a document that motivates you and keeps you going everyday. It should keep you focused on what’s important for you. Feel free to decorate it with photographs, images, graphics, and the like. I include a lot of relevant visuals for my most important goals. For example, for my healthy living goal, I have visuals of fruits, nuts, fruit/vegetable smoothies, salads and water.

Because this book is so important, remember to keep at least one backup of it. I have a copy on my computer which I access on a daily basis and a backed up copy in an external harddrive.

因为这本手册如此重要，所以请记得至少要保存一个备份。在我电脑里，我有一个每天都要用到的备份。另外，在可移动硬盘里我也保存了一份。

How-To Guide on Creating Your Life Handbook

1.Decide if you want a hard or soft copy book. 

如何创建人生指南。

1.决定出你想要书面化的手册还是电子版的记录。

?As I mentioned in life handbook article, I recommend soft copy because it’s easy to edit. Mine is soft copy Excel worksheet. It has many different sheets, whereby each sheet is a section itself.

正如我在指南手册一文里说到的那样，我推荐电子版的记录，因为它便于编辑。我的指南就是用Excel电子表格做的。一张电子表格有很多工作簿，而每一张工作簿就是独立的一个部分。

?If you want hard copy, it’s good too! Go shopping for a nice book that resonates with you to get started.  

如果你想要书面化的记录，那也不错。去店里买一个精美的本子，然后着手写吧。

2.Fill in your handbook 

2.填写手册

?Start with your mission statement, and go from there. Refer to sections on what to put.

先写你的宗旨，然后围绕它发散开来。把要写的分门别类。

?Since it’s your life handbook we’re talking about, it can get overwhelming with the amount of information to put. Don’t worry about it – just do it bit by bit. It’s not meant to be finished in one day; in fact it’s meant to be filled in and updated your whole life. Do whatever you can today, then continue on tomorrow. 2 weeks should be a good enough time to fill up the core base of the book.

既然我们谈论的是你的指南手册，手册里要写的东西会异常的多。对此不必担心，只管去做，一点一点来。这不是说要在一天内完成，事实上，这份手册需要你用一生的时间来填写和更新。今天，只管做你能做的，接着明天继续。完成手册的雏形工作，花上两周时间差不多了。

3.Decorate it! 

3.装饰手册！

?Your handbook is all about you, so personalize it and make it appealing to you

你的一切都体现在手册里，所以做手册时要个性化和有吸引力。

?My handbook is an excel workbook with many different colored sections. They guide me in reading. I have a vision board sheet where I plaster all the pictures of goals I want

我的手册是由很多种不同颜色组成的电子表格。不同的颜色在阅读时具有指导性。我有一块愿景板，我把我想要的东西以图片的形式全贴在这块板上。

After Creating Your Life Handbook

在创建好你的人生手册后

1.Look at your handbook every morning before you start your day. With your handbook in place, develop the habit to start off your day by reading it. Start off with your purpose, your values, followed by adages in life, your long-term goals then your short-term goals. You will find that even just spending a few minutes looking through it everyday will give you immense focus and clarity throughout the day which will lead to dramatic changes in the long-run.

1.每天清晨，在开始你新的一天时，看一看你的手册。把手册放在触手可及的地方，并养成一个习惯，即在开始一天生活前先读一会儿书。开始一天的生活时，在脑子想一遍：你的人生目的，你的价值观，生活中得到的经验教训，你的长期目标和短期目标。仅仅是每天花几分钟回顾手册，一天下来，你会发现自己的注意力更集中，做事更明确，这无疑会带来深远的影响。

2.Refer to it through the day to remind yourself of what you want. I have my life handbook open in my computer all the time, so it’s second nature to refer to it and update multiple times in a day. If it’s a hard copy, carry with it wherever you go. My clients carry their handbooks everywhere they do.

2.参照指南，提醒自己什么是自己想要的。在我的电脑里，我一直把电子版的指南处于打开状态，因此参照它，而且一天更新好几遍已经成了一种习惯。如果是书面化的手册，无论你到哪里，都要带着它。我的客户无论去哪儿工作，都会带着手册。

3.Update it constantly. Start using it as the central repository for every single piece of information that is valuable to you. Whenever you come across something that is meaningful and noteworthy, incorporate that into your book. Whenever you have a new goal, include it inside. Whenever you get an ‘AHA!’, revelation or epiphany, capture it so it will not get lost. While you might find some getting used to in the beginning, in no time you will become naturally inclined to refer to your handbook every time.Remember, your handbook is a work-in-progress document. Nowhere will it ever be completed in the truest sense of the word, because your life is a journey to be discovered every day. Your handbook is an evolving tool to guide you to live your best life. Whenever you get a new epiphany/learning/insight, pen it down into the book.

3.时常更新信息。不论什么时候你碰到有意义和值得注意的事，把它写进你的手册里。不论什么时候你有一个新目标，也把它写进手册里。无论何时你有了启示和灵感，不要放过它，把它写进手册里，这样它们就不会消失了。虽然刚开始有些不习惯每次做事时要去参照一下指南，但很快你就会自然地做到。记住，指南是一本不断在完善的手册。因为你的生活是一段路程，每一天都有等待发现的精彩。指南是指导你活出自己生活的工具。无论何时你有了启示和灵感，拿起笔把它写进手册里。

4.Back it up regularly. If you have a soft copy handbook, please back it up frequently (cue monthly).

4.时常备份。如果你的指南书是电子版的，请经常做好备份（比如每月一次）。

Congratulations – from today onwards, your handbook will be your guiding point, your manual to live your best life.  

祝贺你--从今天起，你的指南将指引你前进，让你活出最完美的自己。

Be sure to check out Day 17 of 30DLBL Program on creating your own life handbook.

务必参照30DLBL中第17日创造你自己的生活这一章（注 30DLBL为Live A Better Life in 30 Days）。