赵敏的斩首比赛:当你遇见生命中最艰难的问题

作者：Lori Deschene 译者：卡司帕

There are certain questions that we can answer easily and maybe even instinctively. When your child asks if you love her, you don’t need even a second to think. When your best friend asks if you’ll be there for him, the words practically form themselves.

在生活中，我们可以轻松地回答出一些问题，甚至出于本能就知道答案。当你的孩子问你是否爱她，你肯定不会思考第二种答案。当你的挚友问你是否忠诚，他们自己就知道答案。

These are the answers we know in both our heads and our hearts.

这些答案都在我们的头脑和心中。

But not all questions are made equally. When it comes to the hardest questions in life, the answers are open for debate.

但不会每个问题都平等。当涉及到生活中最难的问题，每个人心中的答案都不尽相同。

What’s the meaning of life? Does everything happen for a reason? Why is there suffering in the world?

生命的意义是什么？是否一切事出有因？为何苦难会降临到世间？

For a long time, these questions paralyzed me.

在很长的一段时间里，这些问题令我发疯

I spent years isolating myself, dwelling on everyone and everything that hurt me, feeling like a victim and wondering, “Why me?” I felt worthless, and my life felt meaningless. I answered every challenging question with an equally difficult and disempowering one.

我曾经孤立自己很多年，总觉得每个人和每件事都带给我伤害，好像自己就是受害者，并且总想知道“为什么总是我受伤？” 我觉得自己失去了价值，自己的生活没有意义。我给了每个富有挑战性的问题一个同等艰难且毫无自信的答案。

I was too busy bemoaning the challenges of my past to recognize and create possibilities in the present.

我因为过分哀叹自己曾经遇到的挑战而不能为现在的生活发现并创造更多可能性。

Ultimately, we have two choices in life: obsess about everything we don’t know, creating a sense of helplessness; or focus on what we’ve learned and what we can do now to live the lives we want to live.

最终，在生命中我们只有两个选择：因我们不知道的一切而烦恼，只会产生一种无助感；或者聚焦于我们能学到的和能做到的事情上，去过我们想过的生活。

That’s the premise of my first book, Tiny Buddha: Simple Wisdom for Life’s Hardest Questions, a collaborative project that includes nearly 200 tweets from @tinybuddha Twitter followers.

In preparation for the December 8th launch of my book, I’m planning to create another collaborative project, and it starts with a question for you:

我的新书准备在12月8日推出，我计划另外建立一个合作项目，并且为您准备了一个问题：

What’s been the hardest question in your life?

THE LIFE’S HARDEST QUESTIONS PROJECT

生命难题项目

我们的目标是建立一个照片长廊，里面包含每个影响我们的生活的、具有挑战性的问题。也许是关于爱情，幸福，宽恕，意义，金钱，社会变革，宗教，政治的——或者任何你觉得难以回答的问题。 

  There are no rules for the photo, except that you must be in it, and your question cannot include profanity.

You can feature your question in any way. You could write it on a piece of paper and hold it, or you could do something more creative, like:

你可以随意展示你的问题。你可以用一张纸写下来然后举起它，或者做一些更有创造性的事，比如——

Write it on a chalkboard

   · 将它写在黑板上

Use a stick to draw it in the sand at the beach

   · 用一根棍子画在沙滩上（在拍照之前可别被海浪冲掉哦）

Paint it on a canvas

   · 在画布上绘制

Write it on an Etch A Sketch

   · 在可擦除儿童写字板上写出来

What matters is that you communicate your question, but creativity is a good thing!

最重要的是交流你的问题，但创造力也是一件好事！

提交您的照片：

   · 向 questionphoto@tinybuddha.com 发送一封带有JPG照片附件的邮件

   · 在主题一栏中填写“Question Photo”

WANT TO HELP SPREAD THE WORD?

If you’d like to support me and help spread the word about this project, I recommend sharing one of these tweets:

如果你想支持我，并帮助这个项目宣传的话，建议你分享这些推（只限于Twitter）：

What’s been the hardest question in your life? Share it with @tinybuddha here: http://bit.ly/qx0HB8

在你过去的岁月中，有什么问题让你辗转反侧？关注 @tinybuddha 并与我们分享：http://bit.ly/qx0HB8 （请使用英文 :) ）

Want to be part of the @tinybuddha Life’s Hardest Questions project? Grab your camera and head here: http://bit.ly/qx0HB8

想要成为 @tinybuddha 生命难题计划的一员？用你的相机抓拍并且点击这里：http://bit.ly/qx0HB8

Is there a big question that’s hard for you to answer? Share it with @tinybuddha here: http://bit.ly/qx0HB8

你有没有很难回答的大问题？在这里与 @tinybuddha 分享 ：http://bit.ly/qx0HB8

Join 220,000+ friends at tinybuddha.com through the @tinybuddha Life’s Hardest Questions Project: http://bit.ly/qx0HB8

通过参与生命难题计划项目，与在tinybuddha.com的22万人成为朋友：http://bit.ly/qx0HB8

You can also help by:

您还可以通过如下方式帮助我们：

Writing a short blog post about the project, asking your readers to participate

   · 写一篇关于这个项目的简短文章，请求读者们参与

Sending this blog post to 5 of your friends

   · 将这个博客的链接发给你的五个朋友

Forwarding this email to 5 of your friends (if you’re an email subscriber)

   · 如果你有EMail，给五个朋友发送电子邮件

Thank you in advance for being part of this project. This book has been a year and a half in the making, and it came together in large part because of you. Your insight, kindness, courage, and generosity make this site what it is—and I appreciate you.

首先感谢您参加这个项目。这本书已经准备了一年半的时间，因为您，它将变得更加丰富。你的洞察力，善良，勇气和慷慨造就了这个站点——我很感谢您。

Please note that by submitting your photo, you are granting us permission to include this in the Tiny Buddha “Life’s Hardest Questions” Project. Depending on the response, these photos may also be included in the Tiny Buddha book trailer.

请注意，通过提交您的照片，您将允许我们将这张照片加入到“生命难题计划”项目中。根据回应，这些照片也可能被收录进《神明式微》（Tiny Buddha）系列图书中。