徒步口号:[翻译] Mystery Method Bonus ( 3 of 8 ) 迷男方法补充材料 3/8

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Mystery Method Bonus ( 3 of 8 )
The Mystery Method
Get Attraction Members
Bonus Material 3 of 8  

Hi guys,

By now you have already received the first two bonus material emails from when you signed up at GetAttraction.  The first email included an extra chapter for the book: The Mystery Method: How to get beautiful women into bed.  The second covered Opening/Approaching in more detail.  If you haven’t received either of these, please let us know atcustomerservice@themysterymethod.com.

Each email focuses on a specific area of your game, to bring your knowledge up to date and lead you to further resources. Sometimes we will revisit some of the material in The Mystery Method book in a different way. Sometimes we will show you some more advanced strategies. As long as you are keeping up, you’ll be fine. Each email is in this format:

Review 
Discussion 
Q&A 
What you need to do 
Further Resources 

>>>没意义，跳过

Today, we’re going to cover Attraction (Chapter 6 from the book). The next email will be on Qualification.
>>>今天我们讨论吸引力（《谜男》第6章）。下次我们将讨论筛选与合格的问题。


Review (of Opening)

The previous email covered Opening (Chapter 5 of the book). The book does a great job of covering the basics of opening and hopefully the previous email answered any lingering questions you might have.

To assess where you are right now, here are some questions to ask yourself:

Can you consistently open almost every group you approach? 
Are you consistently approaching the most desirable women? 
Have you done this at least 40-50 times since reading the book? 
If you can answer “yes” to all three of these questions, then you can skip to the Discussion section below.
If not, here are some things that might help you. You MUST be consistently successful at Opening for everything that follows to work properly.
>>>回顾（开场白）
上一封email教程讨论关于开场白的问题。希望上一封email已经解答你的疑问。

为了检验你现在的程度，请你问自己以下的问题：
你可以很从容的打开每一个你接近的组合？
你可以很从容的接近你想要的目标美女？
从你读了《谜男》后你练习了至少40~50遍吗？

假如不是，或许以下的东西能帮到你。你必须学会很从容的学会打开（A1）以便使接下来的阶段能够顺利进行。

Magic Bullets, which is my new book. This goes over the six types of openers, including indirect/opinion openers. It also covers new types of openers that weren’t developed in the book, and goes into more details and contingencies. Best of all, you don’t even need to buy it. The chapter on opening is free. Head over to the Magic Bullets website and download the free sample pack. 
Badboy Lifestyle’s Seduction Guide.  Badboy Lifestyle is a well-known and highly-regarded style that originated in Europe.  They teach “direct game”. 
Brad P’s Instant Attraction book, which has a variety of different openers as well, including his famous “shocker”. 
On the other hand, if you’re comfortable with the idea of indirect openers but would like some more help, I’d recommend you check out ways to HEAR or SEE different openers.  

In this case, I’d recommend The Mystery Method DVD Video Archive, which includes sample video clips.  Or check out Interview Series Volume #1 on Opening (CD version or immediate download), where you can hear Master Instructors Sinn and myself discussing and delivering our favorite openers and when and how we use them.

At this point, I’m going to assume that you are successfully able to open.  Email me if you’ve tried everything and you’re still not getting it.
>>>介绍其产品，不多论。其中包括Magic Bullets，Badboy Lifestyle’s Seduction Guide，The Mystery Method DVD Video Archive 等书本与资讯

Discussion (Attraction)

OK, time for some solid hardcore information on how to attract a woman. First, let’s start with the book. Chapter 6 is great, and should be read and re-read. 

One of the most crucial sections of this chapter – indeed, in this book – is on "locking in". You can find a treatment of this on pages 110 – 112. Locking in is a crucial thing to do in every interaction. Discipline yourself to do this as a top priority.


One question that we often receive from people who study the book – an important enough one that we should deal with it here instead of in the Q & A section below – is how to start the Attraction phase. It often feels awkward, especially if you don’t have a lot of experience with dating science, to go straight from asking someone whether they "saw the fight outside" (for example) to going straight into your next routine. It can be done and is often done routinely by men who are successful, but it does require a strong frame (p. 214) or some more “technical” knowledge.
>>>讨论：
好，现在开始讨论吸引力。我们从《谜男》第6章开始。你应该反复温习《谜男》第6章。

我们在经常收到读者的问题当中，发现了一个必须在这里讨论的重点问题，那就是：如何进入”吸引”这个阶段？我们经常对此感到困窘的，尤其是当你不熟悉约会学，而直接询问别人”有没有看见外面的打斗”（举个例子）然后再抛出你的下一个惯例。但这确实是可以办到的，尤其是那些经常成功的人，为此他需要很强的框架或一些技术性知识

Put another way, one of the first issues guys have had is “what do I say next?” when you’ve asked a woman or her group for their opinion on something, and they respond. 

This is why one of the most recent breakthroughs in dating science is around the concept of Transitioning. In fact, the way The Mystery Method Corp currently teaches dating science involves the introduction of Transitioning as a phase in its own right between Opening and Attraction. This was one of the breakthroughs in my book Magic Bullets. You can go to the Magic Bullets page and download the free chapter on Transitioning to get a full treatment.
Before I get too deeply into this, let me say that if you are consistently getting from your opener into your attraction material (DHVs, storytelling, etc.), you are probably already transitioning effectively without even knowing it. If you’re not, then try using one of these three transitioning helpers.
>>>从另一个角度来看，当抛出开场白，组合给予回应之后，新手第一个常有的问题是“我接下来该说什么？”。这就是为什么约会学最新的突破与“话题转移”有关。“话题转移”是介于开场白阶段于吸引阶段之间。在我的新书Magic Bullets较多着墨于”话题转移”。你可以到Magic Bullets主业下载“话题转移”的免费章节以得到详细资讯。

在我深入讨论“话题转移”前，我要说的是，如果你已经能很从容的从开场白过渡到抛出吸引桥段（如DHVs, 说故事等），那或许你已经不知不觉的掌握好了“话题转移”。否则，你可以尝试一下的三个“话题转移”方法。

Content Transitions

A content transition uses a woman’s response to your opener to change the subject to a new conversation. Once you’ve done that, you have much more social freedom to introduce an entirely new conversational subject of your own.

For example, let’s say you were using the “fight outside” opener from pp. 72-73 of the book. She may interrupt to say that she knows someone called Glen and he’s a nice guy, at which point you can talk about someone who you know called Glen. Make the story interesting and funny and appear to come out naturally. That’s all you have to do to develop the conversation. Alternatively, she might say something about fighting. If so, you can tell a quick interesting story about what happened when you took your friend/brother/sister/whoever to an Ultimate Fighting Championship match in Las Vegas. And so on.
Within any story or opener, there are only a small number of topics that account for most of the responses. Don’t worry about trying to guess what these are – just deliver the same opener over and over and you will start to recognize them.
>>>内容转移
女人对开场白的回应（对话内容）可以被利用为话题转移以便产生新的话题。当你可以办到这点，你便能以内容转移为出发点，更自由的展开一个你了解的话题。

比如说，你使用”外面的打斗”这个开场白（《谜男》72~73页），她或许会打断你并继续说她知道一个叫Glen的好人，而你就可以以此为话题转移，说一些你认识名为Glen的人。

任何一个故事或开场白只有几个常被注意的内容转移点。你不需要瞎猜它们是什么，只要你反复使用这个开场白，你会从对方的回应了解到那些内容转移点。

Observational Transitions

An observational transition can occur when you notice, apparently spontaneously, something about her or the group. This observation should still be more or less neutral, although it may give you an opportunity to tease her about it later. It can also be good place to insert a "neg" (see pp. 92-99), but as described on p. 99, negs do not usually stand on their own. To "throw and go" with a neg, you need to have something else to say. Negging and then starting into a random, unconnected routine is one strategy you can use.
For an observational transition to work, you must sell your listener(s) on the idea that you really noticed something about them and that this wasn’t planned all along. Delivery is key.

Observational transitions are often connected to cold reads. Cold reading is the art of telling people truisms about human nature in a way that seems like it is tailored to them. Here are a couple of examples:
>>>观察转移
从她或组合里你注意到的任何事物都可以成为观察转移点。观察转移点应该属于较妥当或温和的部分，这或许能在以后的时间里让你有逗弄她的机会。这也可以是使用NEG的时机（《谜男》92~99页），但如书上所说（《谜男》99页），NEG不应该被单独使用，你必须再接下去说些什么。NEG后配合一个随机的惯例是你可使用的方式之一。

为了让观察转移顺利进行，你必须让你的听众认为你是很自然的现了这个点并展开讨论，而不是在一开始时已发现并细心安排它作为你们的对话。如何自然地表述你的观察转移是关键因素。

观察转移经常与冷读一并使用。冷读术这门学问，虽然是告诉某人一些不提自明的事实，但那些话就好像是特定为他而设的那样。这有几个例子：

To a single woman: I bet you that when most people meet you, they think you’re harsh.  But I don’t think that’s the truth. My intuition is that you are actually shy, so when you meet new people, you put up walls. 

To two women: Alright it seems that you [pick one of them at random] are the good one and you [point at the other woman] are the bad one. And that’s okay.  One of you can be my angel and the other can be the devil. Like we’ll roll down the street, one of you on each arm, we’ll make all the other women jealous, and every time there’s a decision to be made, you guys can whisper in my ear and we’ll see who’s more tempting. 
>>>面对单人女性组合时，你可以说：我打赌当人们接触你时，他们会想你是个冷酷难搞的人。但我不认为那是实事。我的直觉告诉我：你只是感到害羞而已，所以当你遇见陌生人你会筑起心里的高墙。

>>>面对双人女性组合时，你可以说：恩，看起来你（随机指向一个）是好人而你（指向另一个）是坏人。没关系，那样的话你们其中一个可以成为我的天使，而另一个则成为我的魔鬼。我们一起走上街，然后左拥右抱的，让其他女人妒嫉我们，如果需要做决定时，你们两个可以在对我咬耳朵商量着，让我们来看看谁的鬼主意更诱人。

Phrasal Transition

A phrasal transition isn’t really much of a transition at all. It's just a verbal crutch that allows you to connect two unconnected thoughts. You would deliver it immediately after the opener but before you begin your attraction material. For example:

That reminds me of… 
That’s just like when… 
Yeah, that’s crazy, because… 
You can use these even if there is no connection between the subject of your opener and what you’re about to say next. These aren’t necessary in terms of what you communicate to a woman, but may make you feel more comfortable. 

Again, if you are already successfully moving between opening and attraction without difficulty, you may not need to worry about this.
>>>短语转移
短语转移并不是真正意义上的话题转移。它只不过利用某些词句（短语）间接转移话题，让前后两个没相干的话题连接在一起。你可以紧凑在开场白之后使用它，但必须在抛出吸引桥段之前。比如：

这让我想起…..
这就像是当…..
对啊，那很疯狂，因为…..

即使你接下来要说的跟开场白没相干，你仍然可以这样使用短语转移。关键并不在你说了什么，而是你如何让对话进行得顺畅无阻。

如果你已经能很轻易的从开场白过渡到吸引阶段，你就不需要担心话题转移。

Discussion (Attraction) – Part II

As discussed above, storytelling is one of the most important skills you need to develop. It’s a great way to DHV to a woman without bragging. To create effective DHVs (pp 99-100) through storytelling, the must useful technique is something we call embedding.

An embedded DHV is a DHV that appears to be relevant to the overall story without appearing to be the primary purpose of the story. See how many embedded DHVs you can find in the fictional story below: 

>>>讨论（第二段）
如上面所说，讲故事是一个非常重要的技巧，你必须好好锻炼它。讲故事是一个很好的DHV方法，一个不需要对女人自夸的方法。一个好用的技巧，”嵌入”，可以让讲故事产生有效的DHV。
被嵌入的DHV，就是被间接安排在故事里的DHV，而不能让人觉得这是一个为了展示你的DHV而编的故事。看看在以下的故事里你能找到多少个潜藏的DHV：

My ex-girlfriend picked me up at the airport this morning. Normally she drives an Audi, but today she shows up in a red Maserati. She didn't say anything about it, so I pretended that I didn't notice, just to irritate her. But then about 5 minutes outside the airport, we got pulled over by the police. The license plate wasn’t valid, the registration on the car wasn’t hers and neither was the insurance. I whispered to her "Karen, you’d tell me if you all of a sudden became a drug lord, right?" That’s when she finally explained that they’d given her this car to use for this photo shoot she was doing, she's not supposed to be driving it off the set, but she thought it would be fun to pick me up in it. 2 hours later, we sorted it out with the police. I feel badly because she’s going to be in a lot of trouble, but the moral of the story is that even though it’s fun to drive a Maserati, it's not that fun to be on the side of the road for two hours surrounded by like eight police cars. You look pretty sketchy. People were stopping to take pictures.
>>>今早我的前女友到机场接我。平时她都驾Audi出门的，但今天她却换了另一部红色车子--Maserati过来。当时她没解释为什么，所以我就假装没发现新车子的事情，企图刺激她。但我们从机场出发了不到5分钟便被警察截停。原来车子的注册号码（车牌）没更新，同时也查出来这辆车子的拥有人及投保人都不是她。我小声对她说：“Karen，今天你只是想让我知道你突然成为了毒品大卖家是吗？”最终她对我解释说，这车子是为了让她进行拍摄使用的，她不应该把它驾出门，但她觉得用这车子去接我会是件趣事。两小时之后，警察放我们走了。我感到很烦闷因为她将会面对很大的麻烦，但这件事告诉我们，虽然驾Maserati出门是件很爽的事，却”爽”不过坐了不到5分钟就被警察拦在路边而且当时还被八辆警察车包围着两个小时。当时我们看起来很上镜的傻瓜，路人都停下车来拍照”留念”。

While this isn’t the best Attraction story in the world, it is full of DHVs. Here are some of the things that the narrator has communicated:

He has an ex-girlfriend. He's not a total loser. 
He is close enough to his ex-girlfriend that she would pick him up at the airport. 
He has a lifestyle where he travels (he's coming from the airport). 
His ex-girlfriend has an Audi. This doesn't necessarily give her a ton of value, but it gives her a little bit, which gives him some value by implication. 
His ex-girlfriend does photo shoots. She must be attractive. 
His ex-girlfriend does the kind of photo shoots where they'd give her a Maserati for the day as part of it. She must be very attractive. 
There are two key rules to follow when embedding DHVs. First, the story must still be interesting if you took out all the embedded DHVs. Second, each embedded DHV should be very relevant to the story. Err on the side of caution; it’s better to undersell your embedded DHVs than it is to be seen as bragging.
>>>虽然这不是展现吸引力最好的故事，但里面可是嵌入了很多DHV。让我们来看看主角在故事里透露的几个讯息（DHV）：

他有个前女友，所以他不个失败者（注：在泡妞方面）。
他与前女友仍然保持很亲密的关系因为前女友愿意到机场接他。
他有旅行的习惯（因为他从机场归来）。
他的前女友有一辆Audi。虽然这显得女方有较高的价值，但这也映射出他有同等的价值。
他的前女友是摄影模特儿，她有一定的吸引力。
他的前女友可以让摄影组借了名贵的Maserati来为她进行拍摄甚至让她驾出门，她一定很有吸引力。

在故事里嵌入DHV有两个重要的规则。第一，即使把DHV的部分去处，那个故事仍然显得有趣味性。第二，嵌入的DHV必须跟故事有很直接的关系。这里有一个警告：最好把嵌入的DHV隐藏在故事里，别让人一眼就看出你是故意在展现自己的DHV（注：就是让人觉得你是在说个有趣的故事，而不是在自夸，但故事里却显示出DHV部分）。

Q&A 

Dear Mystery Method,

I do alright for the first couple minutes but then I run out of things to say.

R. P., San Jose, CA 

Dear R.P.,

You should never, ever, ever "run out of things to say". First of all, one of the reasons why you should do lots of approaches is that you can develop the quick-response mental skill of being able to come up with things to say on the spot. It's like being at the gym. You may not always be able to lift the weight you want as many times as you want, but if you don’t try to do it, you’ll never build up the muscles that will eventually allow you to reach your goal. Second, you are probably more worried about the content of what you’re going to say next more than a woman is. She's mostly focused on your body language and tonality anyway and she knows that not every comment a man makes is going to make her fall for him. Say something. Anything. It will gives your brain time to come up with something else to say next. Even retreating to boring questions like "what do you do?" and "where are you from?" is preferable to leaving because you don't know what to say. But be creative. Next time you run out of things to say, try saying whatever is on your mind. Whether it's "I like salad" or "I love my iphone", it will be better than leaving. [Note – neither of these lines are imbued with any sort of magical powers. They are just random thoughts that are better than silence.]

>>>问答集：
至《谜男方法》，

在开始的几分钟我觉得做得不错，但接下来却不知道该聊什么了

R.P.

至R.P.,
请你永远不要说” 不知道该聊什么”。首先，让你去多多练习搭讪的一个原因是，这可以训练你脑里快速的随意产生一个即兴的话题。这就像去健身，你不一定能每次都举得起你定下的目标重量，但若你不去尝试，你永远也不会练出强壮的肌肉，去举起你的目标重量。第二，你应该是过度重视了你将要说的内容却忽略了女人。女人更注重你的身体语言和说话音调，因为她知道不是每一句男人说的话都能让她为他着迷。说点什么，任何事情都可以。这能让你的脑袋有时间去想出另一个话题。即使抛出一些无聊的问题，如”你在做什么？”、”你是哪里人士？” 等，总比你接下去不知道该说什么而离场强些。但记得，要有创造性。下次你对于接下去的话题没有了头绪时，试看直接说出来你脑里有的想法。不管是”我喜欢沙拉”、”我喜欢我的iphone”，这总好过离场。[注意：这些建议并没有包含任何魔法，随意说一些想法总好过保持沉默。]

Of course, the industry standard bible of "things to say" is the Love Systems' Routines Manual.  It’s a couple hundred pages chock-full of the best routines we’ve ever heard, from openers to late-game seduction routines.  They’re designed as building blocks for you to build your own routines, which should be your ultimate goal.
>>>（这里介绍作者的书，Love Systems’ Routines Manual，内含有很多惯例。）

What you need to do

Keep going out.  Don’t lose your momentum. 
Practice your negs, DHVs, and storytelling. 
Look for IOIs (p. 89-90).  You should start to expect to get a couple of IOIs in more than half of your approaches. 
Keep a journal.  Otherwise you may not notice how far you’ve come and you can lose motivation. 
Further Resources

For the concepts discussed in this chapter, a couple resources stand out above the rest for further information:
>>>在这里你需要做的是：继续练习，别丧失了动力。多练习你的NEG，DHVs，和说故事的技巧。温习IOIs（89~90页）。你应该练到超过一半的搭讪都能得到好几个IOIs。记录下你的实战经验与心得，不然你不会知道你的进度到了哪个阶段而失去兴趣练习。

Mystery 5-DVD Video Archive have great video clips that cover Attraction from a variety of angles from Mystery Method’s 18-city seminar tour (especially volume 2 and volume 3). 
Top Master Instructors’ Sinn and Future did an amazing interview on Storytelling and Humor (CD version here; immediate download here). By the way, you can see the full catalogue of downloadable interviews here. 

Chapter 18 on Storytelling from Magic Bullets includes the most up-to-date guide to storytelling in both the Attraction and the Comfort phases, including a step-by-step guide to build your own stories, with examples.  This chapter was also included as a bonus within the Love Systems' Routines Manual. 
If you don’t naturally have a good sense of humor (and many people don’t), this post on The Forum might help.
>>>介绍其产品，详情可到网上翻阅，这里不论。