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如何开始一个对话

January 15, 2010

2010年1月15日

Here are pointers to help fill those awkward silences. You might be surprised by what someone has to say once you get them to open up.

这里有些适合那些羞于说话的人的锦囊妙计。你可能会奇怪究竟是什么，可以让一些人刚开始就能与他们顺利开口说话？

You Will Need.Interest

Listening skills

Eye contact

Enthusiasm

Open-ended questions

Humility

你需要 ：
兴趣
倾听技巧
眼神交流
热情
开放式的提问
谦逊的态度

Step 1: Encourage talking

第一：鼓励说话

Encourage someone to talk about themselves by asking questions like, “What do you do for a living?” or “What kinds of movies do you like?”People are flattered by someone’s interest and like to talk about themselves.

鼓励人们去说他们自己，想这样的一些问题,"你是坐什么工作的"或者“你喜欢什么类型的影片？”

当人们在谈论他们自己感兴趣的东西时，一般都会显得比较高兴。

Step 2: Show interest

第二：露出兴趣

Display an interest in a wide range of topics.

对很多的话题都显示出很有兴趣。

Step 3: Listen quietly

第三:学会倾听

Listen quietly and maintain eye contact. The more trusted and sensitive their audience, the more willing people are to open up and engage.Avoid being intrusive, prying, or gossipy.

倾听，持续的眼神交流。 人们就会讲的话题会因为听众的信任而越加的深入。

说话者应避免被打断，探听和无关主题的饶舌。

Step 4: Respond enthusiastically

第四：热情回应

Respond enthusiastically to comments to keep someone talking. Keep your enthusiasm sounds genuine.

热情回应一些话题的评论。让它热情显得真实诚恳。

Step 5: Encourage further conversation

第五：鼓励更深一步的交谈。

Encourage further conversation by asking who, what, why, when, where, and how questions, like: “What did you do?” and “When was this?”Keep it low key, so it doesn’t feel like you’re interrogating.

通过询何人，何事，为什么，什么地点和什么问题等来鼓励加深交谈。例如：“你以前是做什么工作的？和“什么时候？”

保持低调的态度，让人感觉到不是刻意为之，只是随口说说。

Step 6: Don't be afraid to admit your ignorance

第六：不要不懂装懂。

Don’t be afraid to admit your ignorance when discussing a topic. That gives the other person an opportunity to show their knowledge of the subject.

不要不懂装懂。那样可以给其他人展现他们知识的机会。undefined

Did you know? Francis Ford Coppola’s 1974 film, The Conversation, lost the Oscar to his other nominated film that year, The Godfather, Part II.

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