火疗大周天什么意思:5种方法终结消极思想

你是否曾经被消极情感所困扰而希望这些烦恼永远的消失？

We all do, and most people suffer unnecessarily because of them.

我们经常会这样，并且大多数的人因此遭受不必要的痛苦。

The good news is that you don’t have to do that. The bad news is that most people will do it anyway, even though the tools are right in front of their eyes.

好消息是我们不必如此。当然坏消息是多数人身不由己，即使有好的手段就展现在眼前。

Why?

为什么呢？

Because of familiarity.

因为熟悉感。

It’s uncomfortable to face the unknown, even though that is where all the possibilities lie. You cannot have certainty and possibility.

面对未知总是会让人感到不适，即使那意味着无尽的可能。你无法掌控各种必然和可能性。

You must face your emotions head on.

你必须直面你的情感。

That is the key to peace. When you are willing to do that, you have reclaimed your freedom.

以下就是获得安宁的方法。当你乐于这样做时，你就会重获自由。

1. Now

1.当下

You’re probably familiar with the Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle. In the book, Eckhart puts forth a simple proposition, stay in the now and you will feel peace.

由埃克哈特·托利，你可能对当下的力量有所了解。在他的书中，埃克哈特提出了一个简单的建议，活在当下你将感到安宁。

Most people don’t understand it right away, but when they do, their life changes dramatically, because when you’re in the now, you are present with everything around you.

多数人并不能马上理解，但一旦当他们了解，他们的人生将会发生剧变，因为当他们活在当下时，你会与周围的所有事物和谐共处。

Think of a time when you were anxious or afraid of a future event, and notice what happened when that event happened and you experienced it.

想想当你对未来的事件感到焦虑或害怕时的情景，再留心下当事情最终发生而你所经历的情况。

It wasn’t as bad as you thought it was, was it?

事情并不像你所想象的那样糟糕，不是吗？

That’s because when you experienced it, you were in the now, and when that happened, the unknown became known.

这是因为当你经历事情时，你是在当下的状态，事情发生时，未知的东西也变得明了了。

2. Acceptance

2.接受

This is another part of being in the now. Most people try to run away from their negative emotions. They eat, watch TV, have sex, read, or hang online.

（接受）是活在当下的一层意思。多数人试图逃避他们的消极情感。他们吃零食、看电视、做爱、阅读或者网上冲浪。

When you get curious about the feeling and accept it as a part of you, it tends to disappear.

当你对这种感受抱有好奇之心并接受它作为你情感的一部分时，这种消极情感就会消失了。

But how do you accept it when it feels so painful?

但这种感受是如此痛苦，你该如何才能够接受了？

That’s the first hurdle you have to overcome, because when you do, you will realize that the pain was only half an inch thick.

这是你需要克服的第一个困难，因为当你克服了后，你会发现这种痛苦也只有半英寸厚而已。

You can either learn to let go of your negative emotions, or you can keep doing what you’ve been doing up until this point.

你可以试着学会让你的消极情感过去，或者你也可以持续做你手头的工作直到痛苦过去。

3. EFT

3.能量心理学（ＥＦＴ，Ｅｍｏｔｉｏｎａｌ　Ｆｒｅｅｄｏｍ　Ｔｅｃｈｎｉｑｕｅ）

EFT is weird, but it works. Nowadays I use something called FasterEFT, which is more efficient and uses a few tricks from NLP, or Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

EFT是不可思议的，但它的确有效。现在我使用一些称之为快速EFT的东西，它更有效率并且使用了一些来自神经-语言程式学（NLP，Ｎｅｕｒｏ－Ｌｉｎｇｕｉｓｔｉｃ　Ｐｒｏｇｒａｍｍｉｎｇ）的技巧。

It’s faster, and it works better than classic EFT, at least for me. The mistake most people make is they dismiss EFT because of how it looks.

它更快，并且比传统EFT效果更好，至少对我来说是这样。大多数人易犯的错误是因为EFT的表面效果而忽视它。

Another mistake is that they use it a few days and give up. Changing how you feel means going in and cleaning stuff up, and most of us have a lot of garbage stored in our brain, so it takes time.

另一个错误是人们使用了一段时间后就放弃了。改变我们的情感意味着深入并清理我们遭受的经历，我们中的多数人在大脑了积蓄了太多的东西，而清理这些需要时间。

But after a while you start feeling a deep sense of peace, joy, and wholeness. At that point you know that it’s all worth it.

但当你开始深入感受安宁、愉快和健康后。那时你就会知道一切都是值得的。

4. The Work

4.一念之转

The Work was created by Byron Katie, and it’s a system of four simple questions:

一念之转的意义是由拜伦·凯蒂创造的，整套系统有四个简单的问题组成：

Is it true?

1）这是真的吗？

Can you absolutely know that it’s true?

2）你能十分肯定这是真的吗？

How do you react when you believe this thought?

3）当你有着这个想法时，你的反应如何？

Who would you be without this thought?

4）没有这一想法，你会成为什么样的人？

That’s how it starts, and while my paraphrasing of the questions may not be perfect, the questions still hold power, because they open up your mind and beliefs to new possibilities.

这就是它如何开始的，当然在你的问题准备阶段可能并不完美，但这些问题仍然具有效力，因为它们会开阔你的思维的信念。

There are so many options to feel better that I am confused about the fact that people still try to drink and eat their problems away.

令我困惑的是，在有如此多更好的选择的情况下，为什么人们还是会通过饮酒和吃东西来解决问题。

5. NLP

5.神经-语言程式学

Last, but definitely not least is NLP, which I use when I work with my own clients. NLP gives you the user’s manual for your brain.

最终但绝不是最后一点的就是ＮＬＰ，当我同我的客户共事时我使用它。ＮＬＰ给予你大脑的使用守则。

It allows me to help my clients achieve quick changes that have big ramifications in their life.

它能够使我帮助我的客户迅速地从人生剧变中转变过来。

As an example, one client came to me with writer’s block. She had trouble with anxiety when she sat down to write.0

有一个例子，一位客户因为写作障碍而找到我。当她开始写作时她总是感到焦虑。

She loved writing, but it wasn’t happening. She had some bad memories and experiences from the past around writing, and when we cleared those up, everything changed.

她热爱写作，但这没用。她在过去的写作经历中有一些糟糕的感受和经历，而当她清除了这些烦恼后，一切都改变了。

You see, we all have internal programs we learn. Sometimes we learn them in childhood, and sometimes we learn them as adults.

由此，我们都有着内在的学习程式。有时是我们在幼时所学，有时是我们成年后所学。

Some of these programs aren’t helpful, such as constantly worrying, stopping yourself from writing, or scaring yourself so much that you can’t go after your dreams.

这些程式中有些并不是那么有效，例如持续的担忧使你停止写作，或者是一直审视自己过多而使得你无法追逐你的梦想。

It’s not that these programs are bad, because they work perfectly. The problem happens when they stop you from doing something you want.

并不是说这些程式是糟糕的，因为它们运作完美。问题在于这些程式使你停了下来不去做那些你想做的事情。

That’s when you need to change the programs within you.

这时就是你需要改变内在程式的时刻了。

The Bottom Line

总结

In the end, you are the only one that can make the changes necessary. I’ve had many people email me, and they want to feel good without any effort.

最后，你是唯一可以做出必要改变的人。有很多人通过Ｅｍａｉｌ联系我，他们希望不通过任何努力就获得好的心情。

If you want to transform who you are and live up to your full potential, you have to first face the dragon (your fears), but what you’ll realize is that your fears are only half an inch thick.

如果你想要有所改变并且发挥所有的潜能快乐的生活，那么你首先要面对魔鬼（你的恐惧），但你要知道你的恐惧只有半英寸厚而已。

It’s terrifying, but it’s over in a heartbeat.

这是令人害怕的，但最终将在心跳中结束。

When you let go of your fears and negative memories, your life changes.

在你解决掉你的恐惧和消极情感后，你的人生将会发生改变。

The question then is, are you ready for it?

现在问题在于，你为此做好准备了吗？