陈乔恩 黄晓明 电影:性：女士，你做对了么？

1. 从不主动

This is probably the most common mistake women make. Don’t rely on your partner to get things started every time. “When you initiate sex, it shows him that sex with him is a priority in your relationship,” says Lou Paget, author of 365 Days of Sensational Sex. “It also shows him that you relish sex for sex’s sake.” Men find this show of power sexy, and they get totally turned on by the simple fact that you want them sexually.

这恐怕是女性的通病了，总让另一半先开始。“当你开始主导性爱，这意味着和他做爱是你们关系中重要的一部分”，《全年无休》的作者Lou Page说，“这也明确向他表明你喜欢和他做爱”。男性会收到你的信号，他会为你改变，变得的更性感。

2. Being unresponsive in bed

2. 不够投入

Let your partner know that you’re having a great time. “Most important, let yourself go during sex,” says Sari Locker, author of Mindblowing Sex in the Real World.

应该让你的那一半感受到，你也很享受。“更重要的是，做爱是别想那么多，彻底放松”，《动人心弦的性》的作者Sari Locker谈到。

Watching and hearing you get turned on makes him turned on, so go ahead and let it show. “Don’t be afraid of what sounds and words might come out of your mouth. It’s only natural and quite normal to express yourself when something feels so amazing,” adds Locker.

他补充说“别担心你会发出什么声音或说了什么，最自然也最正常的方式就是表达出你真的很享受”，你的不自然对方也能感受到，他也会受影响。

3. Forgetting his nipples

忽视他的乳头

The nipples hold a concentration of nerve endings and are usually regarded as more erogenous in females. Which is why many women overlook men’s nipples as an erogenous zone. But nipples can be his thing, too.

乳头集中了神经末梢，亲吻时女性会感到快感，但别忽视男性的，那里也是他的敏感区。

“Many men have very sensitive nipples. Regardless of how sensitive they are, some men enjoy having them stimulated,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, author of Touch Me There! Try sucking gently on the nipples, using your tongue to increase stimulation, and alternate kissing and licking the areola.

“很多男性的乳头也很敏感，无论是否敏感，男性也乐于被亲吻”，《触碰我！》的作者Yvonne K. Fulbright说，可以试着轻轻吸吮乳头，用舌头增强刺激，也可以轻轻舔乳晕，这都会有帮助。

4. Making him responsible for your orgasms

让他令你达到高潮

“It is important for women to know that they are in charge of their own orgasm,” explains Barry R. Komisaruk, co-author of The Science of Orgasm. Because ultimately, you’re responsible for your own pleasure and satisfaction.

“女性需要知道，男性只控制自己的高潮”，《高潮的科学》的作者Barry R. Komisaruk解释道。无论怎样，你要对自己的感觉负责。

Don’t expect your partner to be a mind reader, start focusing on communication: Give him feedback, tell him what turns you on and how you like to be touched. If you’re uncomfortable talking about it, you can guide his hand with yours.

别指望另一半成为你肚子里的蛔虫，请关注交流，把你的反馈传递给他，告诉他你喜欢什么，你希望他怎么触摸你，要是你不愿意说出来，就拉着他的手指导他。

5. Limiting sex to the bedroom

5. 只在卧室做爱

Why restrict your lovemaking session to the bed or the bedroom? Surprise him with sex in an unexpected place.

为什么把做爱环节限制在床上或者卧室里？在其他的地方制造点惊喜吧。

“Men love the combination of two things: A sense of adventure, and when their women are spontaneously overcome with erotic passion,” says Lou Paget, author of 365 Days of Sensational Sex. So don’t overlook countertops, stairwells or even the balcony. By exploring new, naughty places for a nooky, you’ll be making some very steamy memories of your own.

“男性喜欢2件事：冒险的感觉，和他的女人激情迸发，这两者结合会令他爱死你”，《全年无休》的作者Lou Page说。所以别忽视了厨房台面、楼梯间甚至阳台，当找到新的、有趣的地点做爱时，也会给你自己留下深刻印象的。